If there’s something little girls around the world dream of just as much as finding the right guy to marry, it’s finding the right dress to get married in. Yes, it might be shallow and superficial, but who can honestly say they never thought about their wedding dress well before even finding a man? I don’t know why we care about it so much, but we just do.
I remember that about 10 years ago, I had decided that I was going to wear a mermaid silhouette gown on my wedding day. However, I didn’t foresee everybody and their mother would start wearing that same style, so after that trend exploded it didn’t sound so appealing to me anymore. Then for a while I considered wearing a big princessy puffy gown, but also ended up discarding that idea because it started sounding too cliché to go for the whole “princess bride” look.
When the moment finally came to actually start looking for my wedding dress, I just had one thing in mind, I wanted it to be timeless not trendy…something my grandkids could look at in 50 years and go “Wow, grandma’s dress was beautiful” and not “what the hell was she thinking with that dress?!”. Ok, so maybe I had two things in mind, because I also knew that I didn’t want a strapless dress, I wanted my dress to have some sort of sleeve, whether it was short, 3/4 or long. There are tons of beautiful strapless dresses out there, and I have loved many I’ve seen, but the reign of the strapless dress has just been too long, and I’ve really gotten bored with it by now.
So off I went looking for my perfect dress, with those two ideas in mind, having very little time and therefore very few options. Who knew it could take up to 9 months to get a wedding dress in after you order it? I didn’t have that kind of time, when we decided to have a wedding, we decided to have it right away… which left me with mostly off-the-rack options at most bridal shops. And do you know what off-the-rack means in wedding dresses terms? It means you have extremely limited choices, and most them are not very good looking at all. Add to that the fact that 90% of wedding dresses are strapless, and I began to seriously question whether I would ever find a dress I was 100% happy with….enter Schaffer’s Bridal and their awesome selection.
Schaffer’s is a bridal shop in North Scottsdale (they also have a couple locations in Iowa) that offers the ultimate bridal shopping experience. From the moment you walk in, you feel like you’ve stepped right into every girl’s dream of shopping for a wedding dress. The store is be-a-utiful, elegantly decorated, with their huge selection perfectly arranged by price point, and every fitting room large enough to be truly comfortable, spaced from each other so that you have enough privacy, and with plenty of seating for your whole bridal party if they’ve come to help you with the selection process. Of course you’re greeted with a glass of champagne or mimosa, and immediately assigned the girl that would help you exclusively on your search. And when I say their selection of wedding dresses is huge, believe me, it is huuuuge. Their price point starts at around $800 and goes up until the many thousands if you decide to look through their haute couture selection.
Of course I couldn’t miss the opportunity to admire in person some lovely Marchesa and Vera Wang, and even tried on a Reem Acraa dress that I had loved for years…but it’s true what they say, when you’ve found THE dress, you just know. The Reem Acraa was beautiful, but when I put on the dress I ended up picking, I knew I had found the one. And they just so happened to have it on my size, at the right price point for me, all ready to go! It didn’t even need any alterations other that the length…talk about meant to be. Granted, I initially couldn’t believe I was going to end up with that cliché princessy look after all, and even considered having them take some of the crinoline out, but I was afraid it would end up looking not as great, because it looked pretty darn good on me as it was, if I do say so myself.So yes, I ended up going with the big puffy ball gown, because at the end of the day, no matter what preconceived notions you may have had, you just want to feel comfortable and beautiful on your wedding dress…and this dress made me feel just that.
Now, once the dress had been chosen, the fantasy of finding the perfect dress was replaced by the fantasy of seeing my groom’s reaction when he’d finally see me in it. Every bride hopes to get that “you are the most beautiful bride I have ever laid eyes on” reaction from their groom… and I think I accomplished that. My groom is a man of few words and mild reactions, but there was just this look on his eyes, this lovey-dovey, “you are so beautiful” look, a look that I’m very familiar with, a look that I love and live for.
Luckily, my amazing photographer was on hand to capture that fleeting moment, the big dress reveal.
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Our Wedding: Getting Ready
It has been almost 3 months since our wedding day and I can still vividly feel all the intense emotions of the day by merely thinking about it. All the nerves, the excitement, the joy that overwhelmed me at the time, oh how I wish I could feel them this fresh forever. But I know they will inevitably and slowly fade over time to turn into a lovely, happy yet mellow memory. And speaking of memories, let me go back to some older ones that led to the creation of our happiest memory yet as a couple.
Funny how life has a way of working things out, huh? Arranging and aligning them so they can turn out for the best, usually surprising us with the most unexpected turn of events. Ours isn’t a love-at-first-sight kind of story, not even close. When I first met my now husband 12 years ago, I didn’t get any kind of warm fuzzy feelings, I didn’t think he was good looking (to be fair, I didn’t think he was bad looking either, I just didn’t even think about his looks at all…but of course now I think he’s the best looking man on the planet!), and I thought he was kind of rude. We were on two completely different life paths, and circumstances were such that I never even considered the possibility of him becoming significant in my life in aaaany way, shape or form.
Fast-forward more than 2 years after we first met, when we first started dating, and I still had no clue that he would be the man I would marry. In fact, it seemed highly unlikely. We had the odds against us, and everyone around us to often remind us.
When you are just a 20 year old kid dating a guy over 20 years your senior, who’s by the way living more than 1,000 miles away, nobody gives you more than a couple months to burn thru that “fling”. Even I wasn’t sure that we could have a future, but as most 20 year olds are, I was only preoccupied with enjoying the moment. I actually remember telling my mom on one of the occasions she was expressing concern about me dating an older guy, “Relax mom, it’s not like I’m gonna marry him…I just like him and wanna see how it goes… what’s the worst that can happen? That I end up heartbroken? Nobody has ever died from that, so I’ll be fine, cry it out for a little bit and then move on. Plus, I rather try than wonder all my life –what if-“. Who would’ve ever known I was indeed going to marry the guy?! Clearly not me!
Then, times goes by, life puts you through better and worse, sickness and health, richer and poorer, and you end up going through it all together, for 9 years, and somehow find yourselves growing deeper in love in the process, until you finally lose the ability to imagine life without your partner…how not to share and celebrate that?! That’s what our wedding was all about, sharing and celebrating our love and commitment, the journey behind us and the one ahead of us.
So yeah, getting there, getting ready took us a while… and I’m sure glad it did!
Stay tuned for the photos of the dress reveal!
Photos by Steven Toupin
Travel: Nostalgia
It’s been only 2 months since my last travel adventure and I’m already itching to get out there again. Especially when I look at photos of past travels and a big wave of nostalgia hits me like a brick. It’s not just nostalgia for a specific place or time, it’s nostalgia for the feelings I experience thru travel, no matter where I go. The excitement, the novelty, the discovery, the joy, the fulfillment…they can become addicting, and I’m more than ready for my next “fix”. Luckily, my next trip is quickly approaching, but until then I’ll have to settle for looking at old photos and reminiscing about good times.
And speaking of good times, I just realized I still hadn’t shared my photos of my trip to Puebla, Mexico with you guys, so we’re fixing that right now. It was such a good trip, not only because Puebla is one of those lovely cities with an old world feel and beauty, but because one of my best friends from high school, Mariana, lives there and I got to visit. It was almost a mini high school reunion since another of my best friends from high school, Artemisa, came along as well. We used to be a tight threesome back in the day, but we are even tighter now, despite time and distance. It feels so fantastic to have such a bond with people who have seen the best and worst of you and still decided to stick around. Thank God for technology bringing us virtually closer often, though I still miss them everyday…there goes the nostalgia again…